How to Plan Out your Perfect Threesome? May 28, 2014 – Posted in: Erotic – Tags: , ,

self kissingIf you’re like many couples out there, you may have had the titillating discussion of involving a third person in your relationship. Some couples never move past this verbal fantasy, while others actively seek a third person for a polyamorous relationship. Getting the details for your very first threesome right the first time is a great way to be sure this experience is a positive one. Here are our suggestions on how to plan out your perfect threesome!

Agree The Ground Rules and Expectations – For some couples looking for a third, both lovers will be actively involved in intimacy with this third person (meaning that you’re looking for someone bisexual). For others, only one of the lovers will be engaging in sex with this new person. While yet other couples don’t actually have sex with their third, but want them there for foreplay, encouragement and voyeurism. How much attention do you expect your lover to give you during your threesome? How much to this new person? Much of the jealousy after a threesome are expectations of the existing couple not being met by their partner.

Short Term Or New Partner – Are you looking for a one night stand? Someone who is just a sexual plaything with no strings attached? Or a lover to become a third person in your existing relationship, with all the emotions that involves? Be sure that before you even start looking for a third, you establish what you want out of this new relationship.

Finding That Third – When having that discussion that we outlined in the first paragraph, sometimes names of friends are batted around. Just like in traditional relationships involving only two people, sleeping with friends is a tricky area. Some couples would rather go online and find a new lover who doesn’t already have any ties. If you’re creating an online profile, do so as a couple and lay out all your expectations ahead of time. This will help eliminate a lot of the weeding through of dating site profiles who are just what you aren’t looking for.

Have a Non-Sexual Meetup Beforehand – Your very first time meeting your potential third should be in a public place with all of your clothes on. Resist the temptation to invite them over to your place and just ‘see what happens’. It’s important for both you and this new possible lover to judge each other without the fog of expectations, alcohol, and hormones! If things go as planned and you all agree that you’re a good fit, schedule a future date to get together. Don’t worry – the anticipation is one of the best parts to your very first threesome!

Debrief After The Fact – Once your time with this new partner is done, it’s time to discuss what happened with your partner. What did you like? Were any of your expectations not met? What did you prefer not to happen again? Do you want another meeting? It’s okay if your desires from before the meet up change – especially for those couples who have never experienced a threesome before!