Playing With Matches August 2, 2014 – Posted in: Book, Erotic, Fashion, Gift – Tags: beach reading, book
Whether you’re back on the dating scene after years in a committed relationship, to someone looking for the first love of your life, dating can be a stressful experience. Many turn to online dating services after they’ve exhausted their options when it comes to club pickups, blind dates set up by friends and even those kitschy speed dating events. When New Yorker Dylan Fitzpatrick decides to take the plunge into internet dating, the results are nothing short of hilarious.
In Playing With Matches: Feeling the Burn of New York’s Online Dating Scene Dylan gives us a ‘fly on the wall’ view into a number of his dating successes and dating failures. Dylan’s dates sound like the typical New York fare with the aspiring actresses and foreign lovelies, but where they lead isn’t part of your usual date. How many times have you taken someone you just met to a swinger’s resort in Mexico? Or the sunny beaches of Australia for a delicious get away?
But it’s not all fun and games for Dylan. From laugh out loud moments to those that would make anyone want to curl into a ball and have the world swallow then up, Playing With Matches: Feeling the Burn of New York’s Online Dating Scene covers both sides of the online dating coin. From the over dramatic actress to the ladies you would rather jump off a cliff than have any form of a second date, some of Dylan’s picks are truly cringe worthy. But then the coin is flipped, and more than once Dylan gets his own heart broken, only to pick it up and give it another try.
If you’re just dipping your toe into the pool of online dating, here are some tips to be sure you don’t end up in the same funk that Dylan found himself in. (Although we wouldn’t mind having a few of his more hilarious dates!)
• Be honest in your profile. While you may be tempted to ‘big’ yourself up, it may only lead to confusion down the line. Be sure your potential date wants to date YOU, not some extreme version of yourself.
• If you can’t use your face in your profile picture for privacy reasons, choose something that represents your likes or hobbies. Profiles with faces get significantly more contact than those that don’t, with ‘action’ shots being the second most popular.
• As tempted as you may be, resist writing a laundry list of what you’re not looking for in a date. This is quite negative and will cause others to think you’re difficult to get along with.
• Find a dating site that fits your lifestyle. While there are generalist sites all over the internet, you’ll be more likely to find someone that you’re looking for if you hit the specialist sites. Almost every lifestyle, fetish and preference has its own dating site. Whether you’re looking for a lesbian lover, a BDSM partner, a military man or someone who is a vegan, there are niche dating sites for every lifestyle out there.